Where does it come from and how do you keep it?
The universe has a funny way of dropping a big ole’ mind battle right into your morning coffee sometimes. You’re reading the newspaper with your slippers on and the next thing you know your mind is taken over with negative thoughts of situations that you have no way of controlling. Maybe it’s a verbal bomb someone left for you. Or you saw something on Facebook that struck a nerve. Maybe you’re recalling that time you were standing on the soccer sideline and heard an opposing parent say something to your child on the field. These things have all happened to me. I consider myself a pretty positive person…hence the Soul-Positive website. But after all I am also human.
The easiest form of rationalizing for me seems to be oozing a stream of negative thoughts on a reel inside my head. I completely internalize everything. My worries have worries. I lay it out in my brain, cut it open and dissect it some more until I am completely overwhelmed. I think this is human nature and it can be a pattern a lot of us get caught up in. I allow myself that short period of time to purge all my negativity – even if it’s only in my own brain. I think that’s healthy mentally for me. A huge problem arises when you allow yourself to move in to that negative space and unpack. That is something that I will not allow myself to do.
After purging the negative – brick by brick I begin building up the positive. Positivity gets threaded on that reel and I start to think of all the ways that I can accept the things that I cannot change. There are situations in our lives that are just beyond our control. I can control exactly one person – ME. What someone says or does, how they treat me, how they conduct themselves – that’s not my concern. How I react to these situations is my concern. Keeping a Positive Mental Attitude and remaining mentally fit during these times takes a conscious effort. PMA is not just three beautifully strung words – it’s something you have to work towards constantly, you have to own it and believe in it. And most importantly – you have to WANT it.
Can it ever be mastered? My short answer is no. I don’t think you ever master having a Positive Mental Attitude 24/7. Even the most positive of people have their share of dark clouds. But I do believe that you can manage a Positive Mental Attitude. Recognizing your thoughts are just that – your thoughts, they’re not facts, they’re not set in concrete. You can control your feelings.
Being conscious of your thought patterns and embracing the positivity will foster a healthy PMA environment. Isn’t that really what we all want? We want to manage our lives – the good, the bad, the ugly and the uglier. We want to be able to function when the universe drops a worry on our doorstep. Keeping your mind open, uncluttered of negativity will ease your way into managing a Positive Mental Attitude. Negativity has a purpose but it’s purpose is brief. Positivity is the big guy…he needs all the room he can get to help you lead a successful, happy and POSITIVE life.