I have been so fortunate in all the phases of my life to be surrounded by wonderful friends. They’re not always the same friends but every phase brought new people into my life. Some of those friendships didn’t last long – a few months, maybe a year or so but I learned that the universe places people in your life at certain times because you need them.
Our bonds that connect us with other people are often immediate but not always meant for the long haul. It has taken me a long time to not look at that as something negative. Why doesn’t everyone stay forever? In most instances for me we just grew in different directions. More often than not there was never an unkind word – just time that nudged us slowly on to different paths. I used to be sad about this. My feelings genuinely hurt when new people took my space in someone else’s life – slowly edging me out. Never acknowledging that over time I also have been that person who has taken up someone else’s space.
I am so grateful for the people who have come into my life. They’ve shared experiences – the good and the not so good – with me. They’ve helped me learn new things. They’ve shared their knowledge, their support, and most importantly themselves. Some have stayed and remain in my core group and some have drifted away.
I’m not sure if as I get older I am just more introspective or maybe with age finally comes a level of maturity when it comes to friendship but I am genuinely happy and thankful for the people who have come and gone in my life. I don’t want to waste another minute feeling broken over lost ties. Friendships change and sometimes fade away. That doesn’t lessen the experiences and the growth that particular friendship brought to our lives. I feel richer for having had these experiences.
Our bonds with other human beings help us all feel connected to something that is bigger than ourselves. Keeping an open heart on the changes and growth in friendship for me has been the key to remaining positive.