Category Archives: Growth

Exciting News: A Rebirth

 

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Although I have not been writing about things in a timely manner, there are wonderful happenings over here at Soul-Positive.

A bit of background: With the growth of the #taggedbykindness project – I found myself at a crossroads.  I had received numerous requests to purchase my tags and to have the project shared.  This excited me as well as frightened me do death.  I didn’t have a crystal clear vision of where I wanted Soul-Positive or the #taggedbykindess project to go.  I saw bits and pieces and dreamed big for the future but how the heck was I going to tie it all together without freaking out?   How could I marry the two of these entities together without having overlap and probably mass confusion .  I needed baby steps and it seemed like things were moving incredibly fast. < Insert deep breath here.>

The most important aspect of all this was how to continue sharing #taggedbykindess while still maintaining the integrity of the project and not having it stolen right out from under me.  Sadly these things do happen and the more the word spread of #taggedbykindess, the greater the risk of losing control of the project growth or losing the project altogether.  From the very beginning I wanted the #taggedbykindness project to be a random act of kindness initiative where the only profit was that of positive vibes exchanged between the giver and the receiver.  I do realize that not everyone is “artistic” or “crafty” and many of my close friends were asking how they could purchase these tags to giveaway.  This left me scratching my head.  Is it wrong to make tags and sell them?  Would this be “selling out”?  Several friends suggested that I at the very least be compensated for the materials.  Is the integrity of the project going to be compromised by this?  Yes – as you can see I am an over thinker.  This is not always a bad thing.

So after much thought and a consultation with a patent attorney, I have decided to move forward with a few changes.  The biggest change is the name of the kindness project.  I will no longer be using #taggedbykindness as the project name.  Please allow me to introduce to you “The #Soulpositivefinds Kindness Art Project”.  This new name fits nicely under the big umbrella of Soul-Positive.  I thought long and hard over the new name and came to the conclusion that when I started this journey my focus was exploring different ways to keep my soul positive. My little random act of kindness project has grown (and I have grown in the process).  I felt that this project needed to be linked to the overall mission of Soul-Positive. The new hashtag is #soulpositivefinds.

What is the mission of Soul-Positive?  The mission remains the same as it did a few years ago.  I want to continue to find ways to keep my soul positive when there seems to be an overwhelming amount of negativity swirling about in the universe.  I, like most of the people I know want a full, happy life.  I want to love hard.  I want to be loved.  I want to make a difference.

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In addition to the kindness project name change….I have also reopened my Etsy store which is also called Soul Positive Finds.  See what I did there? In the shop you will find find art tags that are hand made with love, light and positive intention.  These tags are not a part of the #soulpositivefinds project.  These tags are more detailed and additional work is involved in the creation process.  These mixed media altered art tags are more a spiritual talisman of positive light and intention. I believe strongly in the power of words.  The art tags are hand painted, stamped and stitched on Rosie my Singer Featherweight machine.  In the future I will be adding small tag making kits and original canvas art as well as some t-shirts and tanks.

My work with the #soulpositivefinds project will continue.  I plan on sharing with more schools and community organizations in my area. I invite you to continue to share this project with others.  Please use our new hashtag – #soulpositivefinds.  If you are interested in having me come and share the project or if you need stamped tags please let me know.  I will gladly schedule a visit or send you blank tags that are stamped with our new name.  If you would like some tags made for you or for your group – please contact me through the Etsy shop. Or drop me a line here at Soul-Positive.

I’d like to take this opportunity to thank all of you who have joined me on this journey.  I never knew what to expect when I decided to open myself up and start actively working towards making Soul-Positive a reality.  You’ve encouraged me to dream big.  I am blessed to be surrounded by such a supportive community and for that my heart is immensely grateful.

xoxo

Hits, Misses and a New Word for 2016

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As I sit here the house is quiet except for the sound of the refrigerator motor humming.  I love mornings like this.  The quiet calm before the house awakens with immediate energy.

I am happy to finally have a chance to quietly reflect on my personal accomplishments from 2015:

  • The birth of Soul-Positive
  • Creating the  #taggedbykindness Project
  • The discovery of a new creative outlet through mixed media art
  •  Experiencing new artistic techniques
  • Welcoming vulnerability through open sharing of my creative endeavors
  • Embracing new adventures
  • Choosing positive self acceptance on a more regular basis
  • Letting go of perfection and embracing imperfection

Along with accomplishments comes the acknowledgment of tasks left undone.  In order to continue moving forward and keeping the momentum of personal growth – I looked at these tasks and reflected also on why they are still on my to do list:

  • Regular blog posts (missed this mark big time)
  • Setting up an Etsy shop
  • More physical activity
  • Completing prompts and online classes in a timely manner if at all
  • Reading more books
  • Controlling every situation (will always be a work in progress)

I know now after careful reflection that I need to work on my time management skills.  I need to refine my skills in the area of clarifying goals.  I need to confront fear head on and ask myself “what are you so afraid of?” And most importantly I need to give myself permission to fail and then dust myself off and rise again.

I’m looking forward to 2016.  The start of a new year gives me the kick in the pants I need to set new goals and put a plan of action into place.

As many of you know I have been a part of the One Little Word (OLW) Community for a few years now.  OLW is a year long monthly prompt driven workshop created by Ali Edwards.  You can learn more about this project here.

In 2015 my word was “Momentum”.  This was a wonderful choice and it really gave me a positive outlook into what I wanted to accomplish this past year.

For 2016 I have chosen the word “Step”.  I am looking forward to the many aspects of what “step” has in store for me.  My goal is to step up when faced with hard truths and tough decisions. Step up to more self acceptance and self care.  Step back from relationships that do not enhance my own personal growth.  Step back and listen instead of always needing to be heard.  Step out physically for walks, hikes, kayaking and bicycling to clear my mind, bring me inner peace and bring me back to center.

I hope you take a moment before the stroke of midnight and pat yourself on the back for showing up in 2015, fighting the hard fights and embracing all the good and even some of the ugly.  Thank you for being a part of my journey this year.  Wishing you all the very best that 2016 has to offer and more!

xoxo

 

Falling Into A Comfortable Routine

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I can’t believe that it’s been over two months since my last post.  The chaos of summer seems to overwhelm me every year.  The kids have different schedules and most of the time it’s go, go, go all day long.  I never stopped thinking about posting.  Boy did I think about it…a lot.  My thought process in regards to the blog this summer had a guilty vibe riding shot gun at times.  I mean isn’t that what we do?  We put added pressure and feelings of guilt right on top of our already overwhelmed, exhausted selves.

I am 100% sure that I posted about cutting myself some slack a few months ago.  And that’s exactly what I did in regards to the blog.  In order to be the best me which included being the best mom and wife – I needed to take a step back.  I had to regroup and start falling back into a routine, a comfortable routine.

So I’m back.  I’m looking forward to sharing some new ideas with you.  I have a bunch of posts lined up with an emphasis on the art I’ve been creating including the #taggedbykindness project which is still going strong.

There will be some changes as the weeks and months move forward.  I’m excited to announce a few guest bloggers (squeal) – you know who you are.  With time and plenty of patience I plan on changing the look of Soul-Positive and adding some merchandise.  So as most people look at January 1st as the start of a new year – I declare October 5th the rebirth of Soul-Positive.  I hope you’ll stick around and see what grows.

 

Feeling Small and Growing Strong

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I work part time as a server for a serving and bartending company.  I enjoy my job because it gets me out and amongst different people, the money is decent and most often we’re allowed to eat (major perk).

Let me first start by saying that 9 out of 10 people are fantastic.  I never feel disrespected.  I am always welcomed and the majority of clients and their guests treat me very well.  That being said I recently ran into the one out of 10 who had the ability to make me feel so very small.

I stepped out on to the patio with a tray of appetizers I was serving after being in the kitchen for a few hours assisting our Lead Server.  I thought I’d give the girls who had been serving nonstop for a few hours a little breather.  The first table I walked up to was mostly older gentlemen in their late 60’s and early 70’s.  There was one woman in her 70’s seated in the corner.  I asked if they would like to try an appetizer and one of the men rather boisterously piped up “where have they been hiding you?”  I laughed it off.

The situation went down hill from there.  There were a variety of off handed remarks that were nothing short of vulgar.  I slid away with a little less bounce in my step and continued on my way.  I felt very small.  I shrunk into myself a little.  What had I done to open up such a one sided dialogue of vulgarities?  These are comments that I can imagine people might say to their buddies when no one else is around.  But really to say them to my face and in front of what I later found out was this man’s wife was appalling.

I am writing this not for you to say “poor you” but because as the night wore on I started thinking of all the things I should have said.  The silent permission I gave for not speaking up.

I am someone’s wife, someone’s mom.  I am a daughter.  I am a sister.  Never once did that cross this person’s mind.  How would I respond if someone spoke to my own daughter this way?  Was it a lack of confidence?  Was I afraid to make waves?  Did I worry about my job?  As hard as this is to admit a part of me didn’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable if I spoke up.

Weeks have passed and I have probably thought of this night a thousand times – all those coulda, shoulda, wouldas floating in my brain and out.  I’ve been angry at myself for allowing myself to feel small.  To silence a voice that was hurting and embarrassed and humiliated by another human being was wrong.  I let myself down.  I broke my own heart a little.

I try and find something positive in every situation.  This situation is no exception.  I recently whispered a promise to my soul – I will never again allow someone to make me feel so small.  If standing up for myself makes someone else uncomfortable I will not apologize.  I’ve learned that being brave doesn’t always come naturally or at the most convenient times.  Sometimes being brave comes much later, when you had some time to process your own shortcomings.  I am not always perfect in my quest to live a full, self accepting life.  On occasion I have to step backward to leap forward.  The key is to keep leaping forward.  And that my friends is all we can keep doing….

Stay Positive!